“The soul always knows what to do to heal itself. The challenge is to silence the mind.” Caroline Myss
What happens energetically when you start shifting in your consciousness?
I call this a process of waking up and smelling the cosmic coffee – those moments in your life that you start noticing your own awakening. Where you start to feel a greater ease and authenticity in yourself. Our process of healing and awakening is often gradual, incremental, occurring through a series of shifts, inner challenges and little surrenders. You could describe enlightenment as literally feeling lighter within yourself, feeling kinder towards yourself and more self accepting. Catching and interrupting those self sabotaging behaviours, getting better with boundaries or generally feeling more positive about yourself.
When we make a shift on the inside, we shift vibrationally. Our thoughts shift, our feelings shift, then our interactions with people shift. Your vibrational patterning is different.
Why Some People Don’t Like When You Change?
People will feel the difference energetically without you even having to say anything. You don’t need to go around saying, “Oh I’ve changed, I’m different”. You are simply living from that place of shift within you. What often happens is that the you that emerges when you really change is not the you that other people are used to, or may expect. They may say things like, “I didn’t know you felt this way”, or “believed this way”, or “were interested in this.”
Well that’s because your awakening process has made more of what’s going on inside more visible on the outside. Rather than saying ‘Yes’ to something on the outside, but feeling a ‘No’ on the inside, we are bringing out more frequently our authentic response. Your shift in consciousness is about integrating and living more fully from your core essence. It’s always been there, but part of our awakening is to be able to access it.
Sometimes when people know the outermost version of you they may be shocked to see there’s more inside, especially if what emerges doesn’t fit their picture of what they thought you were, or what they expect you of you.
There will be friends and family who won’t like that you’ve grown and changed, one bit. They may feel the energetic difference in you, but may not necessarily be comfortable with it. More likely, they want the old you back. Not everyone will be celebrating the new essence that is emerging in you. In fact, there may be a strong resistance against the shifts you are making. What they’re really saying or feeling is that who you are becoming or have become is threatening and they are afraid the new you will judge them.
Perhaps the new you is more able to express yourself, stronger in your boundaries, more positive and self caring in ways that they aren’t able to be in themselves.
Watch Out For Guilt and People Pleasing
Being on a path of our own awakening can sometimes result in vibrationally outgrowing some people around us. That doesn’t mean we don’t love them or care about them. We each have our own soul path, our own trajectory. These are choice points along the path of growth. Most importantly – don’t feel GUILTY! Watch out for that part in you that gets a little lost in people pleasing.
When we please ourself and find ourself, and stay connected to our own truth, we get more compassionate and more loving towards others. This is the path of soul, of living your life more authentically, to say, how can I be loving, whilst freeing myself from disappearing into whoever somebody else is, or whatever their agenda is, in order to please them.
If you find yourself drawing by a constant cycle of people pleasing you won’t be able to do your purpose. The more we are able to follow our process, take time for ourself, to please ourself and find ourself, the more compassionate and loving we become towards others.
Magnetising Your Vibrational Soul Tribe
As you gradually create shifts in your consciousness you will notice that just as some people won’t be comfortable with it, there will also be people who will be drawn to you because of it. There will be like minded souls, kindred spirits who will feel a resonance with you. This could be described as vibrating at the same frequency, like tuning forks, drawing you to them or magnetising them to you. You might find that when you’re around people who are on the same or similar energetic frequency everything in you relaxes, you feel at home and start to feel a greater sense of wellbeing. You might also notice that there is spontaneous and creative expression of your work and service in the world, that emerges from the meaning and direction of your connection together.
Love and Blessings