Investment in your Emotional and Psychological Wellbeing has a flow on effect to all those around you.
If you’re still on the fence about whether or not you should be undergoing psychotherapy, know that you’re not alone. After all, the concept can be a bit unnerving. You go to an office. You face a total stranger. And you divulge to that person the most intimate details about your life, your deepest emotions, your biggest fears and dreams.
Why Reaching Out Can Be Really Difficult
- If you are always the one listening to others, offering support to friends and family and making sure everyone else is okay, you may be on the bottom of your priority list around self care. When we are busy giving to others it is hard to stop and recognise that we also need to receive, in fact it is vital for our physical and emotional health.
- Many men in particular, struggle with the idea of reaching out for help in the form of a counsellor/psychotherapist, especially if they grew up being taught to bottle up emotions, to ‘man up’ and get on with things.
- For some people there are cultural taboos around speaking about your personal problems outside of the family home. This can present great difficulties of isolation and despair when the people you’re meant to be speaking to are the ones you are having conflict with and can’t speak to.
It’s no surprise to see why some people may be nervous to speak to a psychotherapist and may not easily see the benefits of doing so. You might think: I have friends and family; why not just talk to them about my problems? Or maybe you think your problems are a dead end or your circumstances are impossible and no amount of therapy can solve them. Or perhaps you think why go through all that effort of pouring all your thoughts and your heart out when you can simply take medication designed to lift your mood?
The following surprising benefits of therapy may answer your questions:
Clarity. You may feel frozen in certain situations that seem so impossible to change and you can’t see a way out. With psychotherapy, you find your voice as you regain access to the logical, untainted part of yourself. That insight that comes from your inner wisdom will help you unravel the knots and find clarity amidst the seeming chaos.
Movement. You’re an intelligent adult. You know that there might be ways to resolve your issues, even when you’re experiencing psychological problems. However, you can’t act on these potential solutions. You feel stuck, helpless, trapped. Therapy gives that push or drive so you can begin to act on your progress.
Strength. The power of psychotherapy relies on the bond you build with your therapist. Some people call this the “magic” of therapy, but there’s real science behind the phenomenon. When you find a therapist who truly connects with you, you’ll feel stronger and more confident as a result of that “alliance.” And that usually will be the root of how effective your therapy is going to be.
Perspective. Your therapist’s education, training and experience have equipped them with the skills to “listen,” to really listen and see what’s behind the façade. That’s why therapy allows people to gain insights and a deep understanding of themselves and the people around them—something that you can’t achieve from merely talking to friends or family. The ability of your therapist to listen and provide a different but truthful view of your world is key for you to finally find the healing that you seek.
Confidentiality. It is part of the professional code of conduct that what you speak about with your psychotherapist is honoured as confidential.
Holistic Approach to Wellbeing. – Takes psychotherapy out of just being a ‘talk fest’ and draws on a spectrum of skills and practices that integrates mind, body and spirit for optimum health and healing.
Head/Heart Healing – More and more neuroscience is finding that emotional pain is just as real to the brain as physical pain. Fortunately the same applies to emotional healing – it can be just as real to the brain as physical healing. And this is where psychotherapy can offer practical tools and resources that help activate healing between the head and heart.
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